I recently took my Dad to the oral surgeon and when we left, he was still groggy from the anesthesia.
He walked right by the passenger side of my car, so I assumed it was because of the meds.
I asked him "Where are you going?! My car's right here."
He laughed. "I'm opening the door for you!"
This little act of chivalry has been running through my mind.
When was the last time I even half-expected someone to open my car door?
It's a totally sweet gesture and I honestly love it.
There's something endearing about being treated like a lady.
I realized this week, chivalry is only dead because I killed it. #whoops
But this isn't really about chivalry. It's about setting your standards.
What do you want?
Are you actually getting your needs met or just putting up with what you've been given?
When there's a "connection" (aka chemistry) it's easy to overlook little things that might be deal breakers.
Do they actually listen to you?
Respect your boundaries?
Make an effort to meet your needs?
Just because someone hit the genetic lottery - or the actual lottery - doesn't mean they'll make a good partner.
More importantly, what are your standards for yourself?
Are you doing things for YOU on a regular basis that keep you running at peak performance? (Food, gym, massage, etc.)
Do you know what your needs are?
Or are you just coasting along and doing the bare minimum?
Start doing things for YOU, even when you feel like being lazy, because you LOVE yourself. #accountabilityissexy
No one else can fill the void when there's something you're not giving yourself. Ever.
Set your standards and live by them.
Commit to getting what you want and need for your own sake. And no one elses.
What are your deal breakers? What do you need on a regular basis to keep yourself in tip-top shape? I wanna know! Tell me in the comments.